"Just Friends" or Infidelity?

Date

Month Day Year

Full Name

First Name Last Name

E-mail (we'll send you a copy of your responses)

Are you discussing your marital problems with your "friend" that your spouse doesn't even know?

Yes No

Are you turning to your "friend" with a problem instead of your spouse?

Yes No

Do you think your "friend" understands you better than your spouse?

Yes No

Are you giving more and more affection and loyalty to your "friend" and less and less to your spouse?

Yes No

Are you beginning to prefer to spend time talking or texting with your "friend" vs. connecting with your spouse emotionally or physically?

Yes No

Are you making up reasons to connect and have contact with your "friend" or constantly checking to see if they have made contact?

Yes No

Are you euphoric and elated when connected with your "friend" and depressed when you've been disconnected for too long?

Yes No

Do you want to tell your "friend" the good news first, even before your spouse?

Yes No

Would you let your spouse read your correspondence with your "friend"?

Yes No

Are you excluding your spouse from your relationship with your "friend"?

Yes No

Are you becoming deceptive about where you are or what you're doing? Adding a password to your phone or PC? Getting a secret email account or a fake chat profile?

Yes No

Are you ignoring the fact your spouse says they don't like our "friendship"

Yes No

When your spouse disagrees with your "friend" do you find yourself defending your "friend"?

Yes No

Are you buying your "friend" gifts that you don't even buy your spouse? Or inappropriate gifts that are too personal?

Yes No

Are you pretending you're single when you're not? Or living like you're single when you're not?

Yes No

Are you finding yourself spending HOURS in person or online until 2am or 3am and lying to your spouse about it?

Yes No

Are you beginning to feel an attraction toward your "friend"?

Yes No

Are you emotionally or sexually aroused when you think about your "friend"?

Yes No

Are you sending or receiving flirty emails, texts, or photos?

Yes No

Are you daydreaming about being in bed with your "friend"?

Yes No

Are you doing anything sexual things with anyone other than your spouse? Having sexy chats? Sharing your sexual fantasies? Masturbating and/or mutually masturbating?

Yes No

Are you feeling cold when it comes to having sex with your spouse? Would you rather be watching TV, or talking to your "friend"?

Yes No

The intent of this 22 question quiz is to get you thinking. You've told yourself that you're "just friends" and :What we're doing is okay...after all it's not like we've slept together!" But you are only fooling yourself! Even ONE "Yes" answer means that you are giving to someone else what you promised to give only to your spouse.

ONE "Yes" answer is a slip into temptation. Please turn your attention to building what you want with your spouse rather than focusing on someone else.

A few "Yes" answers means that you are SERIOUSLY tempted by the other person and have probably begun to justify the relationship because it makes you feel good. You better end all contact now or you will be unfaithful. Yes if you have to leave your job, you have to leave your job.

More than a few "Yes" answers means you a playing with fire--you have certainly committed emotional infidelity and parts of you want to commit physical adultery. Don't fool yourself, this is SERIOUS! You are risking your family, your home, your life all for a fantasy. End all contact now!

22 "Yes" answers is full-blown adultery.